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Check out the following websites with helpful information:

Orange County Superior Court  Family Court Services
Divorcesource.com
http://www.fns.usda.gov/wic/aboutwic/
Makinglemonade.com
http://singleparents.about.com/od/financialhelp/qt/balancecheck.htm
http://www.aamft.org/families/Consumer_Updates/ChildrenandDivorce.asp
Supervised Visitation Network
Pros and Cons of joint custody
AAMFT Therapist Locator
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Frequently Asked Questions

Counseling Sessions:


  • What happens during counseling?
  • Does the whole family come to counseling or can I come alone?
  • How do we know when we don’t have to go to counseling any more?
  • Fees for Counseling Services
  • Do we get assigned a counselor?
  • What kinds of issues do people talk about in counseling?
  • Are there any things in counseling that aren’t confidential?
Monitored/Supervised Visitation:



  • How Does the Supervised Exchange Program Work?
  • Does F.A.C.E.S. Schedule Exchanges on Holidays?
  • What Type of Facility is Available?
  • Can F.A.C.E.S. Refuse a Referral or Terminate Services?
  • Will F.A.C.E.S. Submit Court Reports?
  • How Can I Find Out More Information?
  • What is Monitored/Supervised Visitation?
  • How Does F.A.C.E.S. Monitored/Supervised Visitation Program Work?
  • What is the Job of the Professional Monitored/Supervised Visitation Provider?
  • Fees for Services
  • Does F.A.C.E.S. Schedule Visitations on Holidays?
  • Tips for the Visiting Parent
  • Tips for the Custodial Parent

What happens during counseling?
The family talks about their problems and gives examples of the things that are bothering them in their lives. With the counselor, they decide on goals they want to reach and work on how to get to those goals.

Does the whole family have to come to counseling or can I go alone?
The counselor will work with whoever wants to be there in the room. Sometimes it is good to see both parents at first, if the child is having problems to get an idea from each of the parents on their perspective of the problem.
From that point, the therapist or counselor may see the child individually or with each of the parents. For those who are working on issues as a single parent, they may want to come alone for a few sessions. Some single adults come in to work on building new relationships.

Therapy or counseling is about relationships. You with your home life, your job, your friends, your family members. You may want to look into how you are with yourself, how you are with others, and how others are treating you.


How do we know when we don’t have to go to counseling any more?
You will start to smile more and feel better about your life. That is when you know you don’t need counseling anymore.

Fees for Counseling Services
F.A.C.E.S. has a sliding scale fee based on each person’s ability to pay. The fee schedule it set when you make the first appointment, and you pay before each session. The counselors do not have change available, so you need to have exact payment and we do not accept checks.

Do we get assigned a counselor?
Yes, your counselor will be assigned based on that person’s availability. You can usually expect to have an appointment within a week.

What kinds of issues do people talk about in counseling?
Whatever you want to talk about is o.k. The counselor is there for you to listen and help you sort out your problems and begin to find solutions. So anything you want to talk about is what people talk about in counseling. Normally, most people have problems with relationships in their lives and are unhappy. The goal to get happier, and maintain peace or contentment on a regular basis.

Are there any things in counseling that aren’t confidential?
Child abuse, if told to a counselor, must be reported, and if you intend to do harm to another person, the counselor is also bound to report. Other than those two times, the sessions are completely confidential.

What is Monitored/Supervised Visitation?

F.A.C.E.S. guiding principle is to protect the best interests of the children whose parents have a custody or visitation matter within the family courts. Sometimes, based on issues of protection and safety, a judge will decide that in order for a child to have contact with a parent, a neutral third person must be present during any visitation. A judge make these orders on a temporary basis in order to give the visiting parent an opportunity to address specific problems or when contact is being reestablished after a prolonged absence. The court order will specify the time and duration of visits. Sometimes, the court order will also specify the provider and where the visits are to take place. F.A.C.E.S. is a professional provider for these services.

How Does F.A.C.E.S. Monitored/Supervised Visitation Program Work?

The relationship you have with F.A.C.E.S. is considered a business relationship in which services are performed for a fee. Before you begin supervised visits both the custodial and non-custodial parent will be required to meet with F.A.C.E.S. in person (separately) to complete the Intake Application Interview and discuss certain topics about the visit. These topics include:

  • Terms of the visit, review of court order
  • Method of payment
  • Safety procedures and visitation rules

Prepare for the interview as you would prepare for a business interview. Make a list of questions you have for F.A.C.E.S. and make sure you understand what services will be provided and what is expected of you. This will help you feel more comfortable during the visits and allow you to focus on your child.

You will be required to sign an agreement to all conditions related to fees and services at the time of the Intake Application Interview.

What is the Job of the Professional Monitored/Supervised Visitation Provider?

F.A.C.E.S. makes every effort to keep your child safe and supports your child in enjoying the visit with the supervised parent. It is F.A.C.E.S.' job to make sure that the children involved in the visits are safe and free from any unnecessary stress. The monitor must be present at all times during the visit, listen to what is being said, and pay close attention to the child's behavior. If necessary, the monitor may interrupt or terminate a visit. A Visitation Summary Report is completed at all visits and maintained in the clients file. All providers are required to report suspected child abuse to the Child Abuse Hotline at (714) 940-1000.

Fees for Services

Fees for Monitored/Supervised Visitations are paid for by the visiting (non-custodial) parent, or as directed by the court order, and based on a sliding scale, meaning that the hourly fee is determined on the net monthly income (after taxes/deductions)

* $40.00 Intake Application Fee for Non-Custodial Parent

* $22.00 to $40.00 Hourly Visitation Fee based on sliding scale - To qualify for sliding scale fee, a financial statement must be complete with recent payroll records, otherwise the standard $40.00 hourly fee applies. Adjustment waivers are considered in special circumstances.

Visitation Cancellation Policy : A 24-hour cancellation notification is required from either party. The canceling party will be responsible for the 1 st hourly fee if not cancelled within this timeframe. Fee must be paid prior to next visitation. Rescheduling fees may apply.

"No Show" Policy: The "No Show" party (custodial and/or non-custodial) will be responsible for the 1 st hourly fee. Fee must be paid prior to next visitation. Rescheduling fees may apply.

* Pricing for services are subject to change without notice

Tips for the Visiting Parent

Being with you child in the presence of someone else may be uncomfortable for you, at least in the beginning. You probably have many questions and concerns, and that is perfectly understandable. During tough times you may want to talk to a mental health professional or find a support group to help you with your feelings. Do your best to focus on your relationship with your child. Your patience and commitment will pay off. Here are some suggestions that might be helpful to you:

• Read the Court Order thoroughly

• Arrive and depart on time as determined by the Provider

• Avoid discussing the court case with child

• Avoid quizzing your child about the other parent

• Avoid making your child a messenger to other party

• Say brief and positive good-byes to your child when visit is over.

Tips for the Custodial Parent

Supervised visitation can also be a challenge for you. Typically you have been taking care of your child's everyday needs and have a routine for yourself and your family. Supervised visitation can sometimes feel like one more responsibility. Of course you also have concerns and questions about the visits and how they will affect your child. This is understandable. In difficult times you may also want to talk to a mental health professional or find a support group where you can talk about your feelings. Here are a few suggestions that might help you in the process:

• Read the Court Order thoroughly

• Explain to our child where and when the visits will take place

• Have your child ready on time and be prompt

• Reassure your child that you support him/her in having a pleasant visit

• Avoid quizzing your child about the visit

• Avoid making your child a messenger to the other part

How Does the Exchange Program Work?

The non-custodial parent will be present in the exchange room 15 minutes prior to the scheduled exchange. The custodial parent will arrive at the scheduled time. A staff person escorts the child into the Center and the custodial parent leaves the premises. Fifteen minutes later, the non-custodial parent may leave with the child.

Following the visit, the non-custodial parent and child must return at the scheduled time. The custodial parent arrives 15 minutes following the child's return to pick up the child.

What Type of Facility is Available?

The physical location and environment at F.A.C.E.S. is conducive to a safe exchange of the child and all parties involved: child (ren), custodial parent, and non-custodial parent and services provider.

Our Fullerton facility has two entrances and a number of restrooms and waiting rooms available for exchange. We believe that the quiet, comfortable, home-style setting at F.A.C.E.S. provides a more conducive environment for calm exchange than can be afforded by parking lot, fast-food restaurant, or police station.

Can F.A.C.E.S. Refuse a Referral or Terminate Services?

F.A.C.E.S. has the right to refuse and/or terminate services at any time. F.A.C.E.S. will not accept a case if reasonable safety for all family and staff members cannot be ensured. If the terms and conditions established by F.A.C.E.S. for provided services are not complied with, F.A.C.E.S. reserves the right to terminate services.

Will F.A.C.E.S. Submit Court Reports?

Reports will be submitted to the courts upon court reviews. Reports will consist of a summary of the observations made by staff. F.A.C.E.S does not conduct parental assessments or make recommendations. F.A.C.E.S. must be informed by attorneys or parents as to when court reports are due.

Does F.A.C.E.S. Schedule Visitations and Exchanges on Holidays?

Supervised visitations and exchanges may occur around major holidays; however, F.A.C.E.S. will be closed on the holiday itself.

How Can I Find Out More?

For more information or to schedule an intake interview, please call F.A.C.E.S. at (714) 879-9616. Emails can be sent to Program Director Antonia Fraga.  

You can also visit the Supervised Visitation Network for more answers to commonly asked questions regarding supervised visitation and safe exchanges.

For more information please contact us.

We welcome your general uestions through email: mail@facescal.org

North County: Fullerton & Anaheim (714) 879-9616
Central County: (714) 547-7345
South County: (949) 582-7500

Los Angeles: 1-877-422-3223

High School Student asks questions about divorce and families  10/07  
Kelly Cho asks Clinical Director, Mary O'Connor:

1. From your experience, what are some of the thoughts that individuals have about marriage life before they get married? Do they usually believe that love will keep them together?

I think people truly believe they will live happily ever after. They believe that love will keep them together, and forget that love takes a  lot of hard work to keep a relationship going.So many women focus on the wedding, wanting a baby and the house, that the focus on what would make their husband happy sometimes takes the back burner. At the same time, the focus on the material things, the good job, good house and good car, best schools, etc for men, help them to forget that long after the kids are gone, its the sustaining couple relationship that must live on.

2. Specifically, what do you think are the sources of where they get those ideas about marriage? the media? their parents?
Yes, the media, commericals, show families together, but hollywood seems to be more interested in divorces and custody battles. I wish we had more focus on the heroes that stay together and try to work it out for the sake of the kids.

3. Are the way individuals think about marriage different than how people thought of marriage before? How?
Absolutely. We live in a throw away society in the US. If it doesn't work, we get a new one. I just did that with my vacuum cleaner. So people have the mistaken notion that if this marriage doesn't work, I'll just go and get another one. Sad thing is, you bring yourself along with you into the next relationship. Until the leaver can find out what they need deep down in themselves, they will constantly be seeking that source of love and attention from others. No one person can be that source.
A generation before mine, (which is two generations before yours) parents stayed together because they had made a commitment and there was no option to divorce. They wouldn't dream of leaving one another. Today we give people the option to divorce with "no fault" .There doesn't even have to be a reason. We just go. If one person wants a divorce in the State of California it happens, no matter how the other person feels.

4. From my research, the leading cause of people divorcing is usually infidelity. How does society have an affect on that?
Yes, infidelity has been going on for generations and many wives and husbands used to look the other way when it occurred. The religious mores against infiedelity are not as strict as they used to be. Less people belong to organized religions, and if they do, some have less respect for the religion due to the duplicity of the message vs. the actions of the clergy or religious "leaders".

5. How does society have an effect on an individual's fall to alcoholism or drugs?
Again, addiction has been around for a long time, and it seems like alcoholism takes longer for the family to deteriorate. Meth, however, hits young families hard and causes greater destruction. More adverse affects and the lifestyle eats away at the moral standards of the family. More and more couples just don't marry yet they start a family. This phenomenom causes a lot of stress when the mom becomes a single parent. I see this generation as having more homelessness due to the no marriage contract, therefore no responsitbility for raising the child, on the fathers' part. Many women are afraid to file for paternity, or embarrassed. The family is not as strong a safety net for single moms as it used to be.

6. Do you believe that society has began to accept that divorce is an acceptable thing to do?  Yes, I do.
Do changing laws such as the approval of the "no-fault divorce" show this? Yes, I mentioned that earlier. Though I think the "no fault" also takes the shame and sting out of the divorce, it was meant to have parents be more amicable about the divorce.  But people are still fighting like crazy, like they were doing when I started working with couples twenty years ago. Not much has changed in that area.

7. Do you think that maybe growing female dominance in the family is also an effect of couples separating?
That could be, but in a good way. Women have been way too oppressed. They have needed to find their voices. The problem is when women get too complaining or domineering of their husbands. That's not good either. A balance is always the best road.

8. Do most couples you work with have divorce on their minds or are they seriously trying to work things out?
Most the people we see at FACES (www.facescal.org), have already made up their minds, or at least one of the parents has made the decision. The problems we see in divorces go on and on. We try to stabilize the single parent family and keep it intact. The struggling single parents we see need a great deal of encouragement and support to make it through the rough times.
Thank you so much for you time. I hope I haven't taken away too much of it. You will be of great assistance to me in my project.
Thank you. I would like to put your Q & A on our website, facescal.org, if you don't mind.
 

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