Parents' problems should not affect children, but children often are the unintended victims in separation and divorce. The goal is to build peaceful bridges for children to cross between parents. Family counseling helps to resolve conflicts that may have been building up or continuing for months or years.
Children have deep feelings and are frightened and don't understand when parents get involved in severe conflicts. Their beautiful little faces don't show the scars they carry inside from the fights they see between their parents, and they can be affected for years after by a single violent incident, similar to soldiers who have been in fierce combat. You may think your children are okay, but the fact is, divorce divides a family. Through some parent education separated parents can take off their couple hats and put on new hats that say "we are the proud parents of our child". Parents can be real partners in raising kids. It is very hard to build something without talking to each other.
Co-parenting is a lifetime task. The sooner parents can let go of old resentments and parent effectively, the sooner the children can adjust to their new lives. The pain of separation of divorce is like a tear in the heart. No one can describe it accurately, but children, whether they like it or not, must be shuffled back and forth between households. And when parents think they aren't saying anything bad about the other parent, they might be inadventenly be hurting the child through the negative comments they make about their child's other parent.
The good news is that it is possible to build or re-build relationships and safe environments for your children through counseling. In FACES' group and co-parenting counseling sessions, parents focus on the needs of the child while learning more effective ways of communication.
We are here to help. To contact us about counseling, co-parenting services:
Or you may phone us at 714.447.9024
F.A.C.E.S. mission is to provide assessment and clinical
support to families who are going through the crisis of separation, divorce or
family violence, and education services to prevent family violence.
To be a dynamic organization of unique professional services, in which all families can receive the emotional attention and support they need to rebuild their lives.